Cool Girl

Vix xxx

  1. Sarah in Wonderland

    May 11th, 2016 at 18:17

    VIX, this is so good!!!
    I’ve known from very early on that I could never be the Cool Girl, I’m too honest and a shit liar, if boys didn’t like me, I didn’t really give a shit.
    I’m a massive football fan though, more so than my bf lol.

    Sarah x

  2. Liz

    May 11th, 2016 at 18:31

    Totally agree that it’s ridiculous to pretend to be something you’re not. However, I also believe that some women genuinely do prefer male company/drinking pints/having edgy sex/watching football. That doesn’t make them fakers. You also gotta remember that that Gone Girl character isn’t the most balanced individual….

    But yeah, no-one should ever pretend it’s OK to be treated like crap!

    Liz x
    <a href="http://www.distractmenowplease.blogspot.com/">Distract Me Now Please</a>

  3. Phoebe

    May 12th, 2016 at 20:44

    Agree with the message on the whole, definitely, but some of the examples didn’t quite feel right to me. "The girl who’s your boyfriend’s shoulder to cry on when things aren’t going well between you" is me with my guy friends. "The girl who ‘gets on so much better with guys because women are such bitches.’" is me after spending seven years at an all-girls’ school (without using the word ‘bitches’, ugly word), though I cherish the female friends I choose to have all the more as a result. "The girl who doesn’t mind her bloke looking at other women because, ‘yeah she’s totally hot.’" is me because of the trust I have in my relationship (assuming we just mean a casual glance in the street or whatever rather than prowling for them online). I point out hot guys to my boyfriend (it’s nice to do things together…). I also like a good pint.

    Cool Girls are annoying as fuck, but only because they’re not real. For the girls – like myself – who do like video games and beer and shitty action films (who did I go to an Arnold Schwarzenegger all-night film event with? My best female friend) and all that ‘guy’ stuff, so long as it’s true to your personality then what the hey. Cool girls, without capitalisation, are true to themselves and assertive, and aren’t defined by their interests. Cool Girls are defined solely by their interests, real or imagined.

    Oh and if any guy said it was ‘gross’ that I drink pints, he would get binned swift as because he sounds pretty boring.

  4. Phoebe Quinn

    May 12th, 2016 at 20:50

    *hot girls… I mean, I also point out hot guys but I meant that I point out hot girls to my boyfriend.

  5. Natasha

    May 15th, 2016 at 19:04

    I really like the premise of this post and the thing that I always take away from posts like these are that trying to be someone you’re not is always exhausting and in the end only serves to make you feel miserable. I’m 25 now and I’ve gone through many different ‘phases’ in my life where I’ve tried to be more grown up, shelved away and hidden the little quirks about myself that make me ‘me’ so that I can appear more ‘normal’ and fit in with the crowd and it’s only until a couple of years ago that I realised that that only makes me unhappy and that the friends I have who are truly interested in me and have stayed by my side all of these years, have done so because I’m me, little quirks and all and I think that’s what I like the most about this post, especially the line, "So if you find yourself trying to be Cool Girl, just stop. You’re a cool girl just as you are." Great, thought-provoking post! – Tasha

  6. Lauren Aitchison

    May 18th, 2016 at 12:49

    Such a nice post. You can’t win either way as a woman, because if you do have interests that are traditionally ‘male’, then you’re only doing it for the attention of men! It’s so much hard work being someone else, that if you can’t win, you may as well be yourself. x

  7. Carolanne Johnson

    October 30th, 2016 at 10:52

    Great post Vix, one thing I’ve always noticed is how females can spot the fake ‘cool girl’ a mile off yet most men can’t see it. It used to annoy me, but then I realised maybe I’ve been seen as the ‘cool girl’ to other females myself, and everyone can see through a fake persona in the end so it’s best just to be yourself. P.s. I’d rather have a dirty pint over a cosmo but maybe that’s a Northern thing! Xo