Chivalry Is Dead: The 4 Outdated Dating Traditions That Need To Die Too

Vix xxx

  1. Demilade

    January 25th, 2018 at 20:33

    Hell yes to this post! If someone truly fancies you and you feel the same way, why play hard to get? If the person loses interest because you were ‘too easy’ to get, it just shows you their true colour. Certainly not the kind of person you want. And as for the first date thing, I’m of the opinion that whoever does the asking out should pay. It’s just fairer that way. These dating ‘principles’ have been ingrained in society for so long so there’s quite a lot of unlearning involved but it’s totally doable. Great post! xx

    Coco Bella Blog

  2. Laura

    January 25th, 2018 at 21:59

    Really wish we could ditch all this nonsense in 2018.
    Can we also add:
    – Don´t be the first one to say “I love you”
    – Don´t let him see you without make up


  3. katie

    January 26th, 2018 at 06:36

    amen amen amen. ive never understood the men paying for meals thing. erm…i earn a living too thank you and i can certainly afford a steak and some chips, pal!

    katie. xx

  4. Madeleine

    January 26th, 2018 at 07:06

    Maybe it’s because we’re old soon to be marrieds not young dating things but C and I take turns to pay for dates (Not strict turns but sometimes I pay for dinner, sometimes he does) but as long as no one gets stuck doing the washing up in lieu of paying, then it doesn’t really matter.

  5. Sarah

    January 26th, 2018 at 07:48

    Dating baffles me these days! The amount of people who say to me, ‘OH I saw him on Tue but I won’t text/ring him till Sat’ – When I ask ‘why?’ they reply with, ‘He can’t think I’m that easy’. One friend told me a guy had asked her on Thursday if she wanted to go out Friday night….she said NO and her reasoning? Too short notice, he can’t think I’m at his beck and call’. So I ask her, ‘Do you LIKE him?’ – yes. ‘Do you WANT to see him again?’ – yes. SO why the bloody hell did you say no?

    ‘Because, that’s what you do’.

    Fecking hell! Honestly, if I was to find myself single I’d just stay that way!

    Sarah 🙂
    Saloca in Wonderland

  6. Emily Clarkson

    January 26th, 2018 at 08:17

    I ADORE YOU!!!!!!!

  7. Louise Williams

    January 26th, 2018 at 10:46

    Whoever still thinks playing hard to get is a good idea needs a reality check. We can order a banging new outfit and be wearing it the next day, we aren’t going to be waiting days for a message reply. We don’t like waiting anymore. Take your time and you’ll miss your chance.
    I got so fed up with how dragged out Tinder conversations were that when my now-bf asked me for coffee pretty much straight away, it was like a breath of fresh air. I was all about that life. See something you like? Grab it (not literally, obvs, your not Weinstein).

    The last few years I’ve really struggled with the whole ‘who pays’ thing. As someone who actually gets paid a fair amount for a young woman, I don’t want to not pay for stuff. I work hard, I earn good money and I want to be able to use it. There’s nothing worse than not being able to do stuff (go for food, weekends away, holidays, etc.) because the guy can’t afford it and doesn’t like the girl paying.

  8. Abi Street

    January 26th, 2018 at 16:19

    I’ve always been a believer that costs should be split on dates, I’ve never really understood the ‘women never pay’ thing. It drives me insane when girls say they’d never speak to a boy again if he didn’t pay it all

    Abi | abistreetx/a>

  9. Mel Eaglestone

    January 27th, 2018 at 08:38

    Nah, fuck boys and bad boys can all do one! Nice guys get the girl ?

    Mel ✨

  10. Steph Dring

    January 27th, 2018 at 12:23

    Some people go on dates just to get it paid for. They expect the man to pay but why? I thought we all wanted to be equal. Split the goddamn bill!

    Steph x

  11. Danielle

    January 27th, 2018 at 18:52

    This is such a great post, there is so much that we need to ditch in 2018!

    Danielle xx

  12. Natalie

    January 28th, 2018 at 08:52

    Is it just me that feels a bit sorry for the guy in the lift? I quite like his daring and don’t find it creepy at all! Fair dos for you to say no, that is your absolute right and that’s the chance he takes for asking but I don’t think there should be a rule about men never being able to approach women in this way. Maybe there are just too many dating rules full stop these days. It all feels like such hard work when did it stop being fun?

  13. Kate Roberts

    January 29th, 2018 at 12:13

    This is one of the best blog posts I’ve ever read. I totally agree with what you’ve written & think it’s time for us all to change our out dated attitudes.

    Kate x

  14. Sarah @WonderlandBlogs

    January 29th, 2018 at 13:15

    Massive fuck yeah to this post, Vix!!! I literally have nothing else to say but that because this was such an awesome read.

    Sarah | <3

  15. LT | Reforming spendthrift

    January 30th, 2018 at 13:39

    Yas Kween!

    I’m all over this post. I hope everyone shares it. Especially the point about paying for a first date because only last week I saw some women saying how “old fashioned” they are and how they wouldn’t see a man for a second date if he offered to split the bill on the first date. I always thought that ‘tradition’ alluded to a trade of money for sex. In effect it’s socially acceptable prostitution. And everyone should be better than that.

  16. Dany Queen

    January 31st, 2018 at 15:02

    Absolutely loved this post! In a time where the fight for equality and justice ha become so prominent, we need t seriously reevaluate and reform so many of our everyday actions and ideas. xx

    Dany | Danielle Reine

  17. Alastair

    February 1st, 2018 at 14:39

    Given Tinder and Bumble are absolute bollocks; I’m really interested in understanding how best a woman would like to be approached. I understand approaching someone maybe come across awkward and easily misconstrued; and I AM NOT excusing the vast amount of men which are complete fucktards for being massive creepoids; however in an age where everyone wants instant gratification it can be really hard for both men and women to make their interests in someone clear; particularly when people’s lives move at the rate they do. Dating eh?

  18. Charlotte

    February 1st, 2018 at 18:24

    Yep, all of these, especially the first. I am someone who is upfront and bored of these stupid games. If I see a message, I reply straight away. If I’m busy, I don’t. Either should be fine and neither should be seen as an attempt to play hard to get. It’s stuff like this that means the guys you are interested in run a mile and the one’s you aren’t think you are flirting with them. In 2018, it’s just fucking annoying and puts me right off dating to be honest!

  19. Tracy

    February 6th, 2018 at 03:52

    Mad love for this post. Last year around this time I wrote a post with this very sentiment about how women have been hard wired to think/act a certain way when it comes to men and relationships. It needs to stop. I’ve been spouting this for over a year so I’m happy to see that someone else out there feels the same way!

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