Dating With A Mental Illness

Vix xxx

  1. Liz

    October 26th, 2017 at 09:53

    Love this post! I definitely experienced all of these when dating my now-husband. My ex had struggled to cope when my mental health had been at its worst, so with a new partner it was hard for me to 100% trust that they would cope with me being unwell, which then made it hard to 100% commit to the long term future of the relationship in my head.

    There was no quick solution to that one really, although it helped to be honest with him about it and talk things through. Luckily it had a happy ending (in terms of the relationship): after a year, I did get unwell and he was brilliant.

    Not sure what the moral of that story is! Maybe that it takes time sometimes!

    Liz x
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  2. Danielle

    October 26th, 2017 at 12:54

    I cannot even imagine how hard it must be. I struggle with OCD and depression and I know how hard it can be on my other half!

    Danielle xx

  3. Emily-May

    October 26th, 2017 at 12:56

    Oh i needed to read this. I get so nervy about meeting new people and really badly work myself up normally resulting in panic attacks. I’ve recently popped on bumble and even that got a bit much for me (maybe because I haven’t dated in about 5 years ?) Hopefully with time and help I can work on that.

    Emily-May x

  4. Emma-Hope Newitt

    October 26th, 2017 at 16:57

    I can relate to this post on so many levels Vix, I remember all of the times I struggled to date because of my anxiety to the point that I held off meeting Jordan on a few occasions because I let anxiety get the best out of me. I think I told Jordan about my anxiety quite early on and I think that was the turning point on whether he’d hang around and stuff.

  5. Renáta

    October 26th, 2017 at 18:50

    Hi! Thanks for such an understanding and deep message. This gives support and hope to other people experiencing mental illnesses. It hasn´t been that long since I could relate to some conditions that you have. I suffered from severe depressions, panic attacks and found dating difficult.
    Fortunately, about a month ago I found a webside run by a very clever and skillful man who helped me out of this nightmare in quite a short time. His impact on my psyche was tredemdously positive and therefore I think that everyone should have access to his help. You can have a lokk and check it out here:

  6. Wendy

    October 27th, 2017 at 10:40

    This is so me. If I actually manage to go out on a date I just go really shy, to the point that my brain just switches off and I have no idea how to hold a conversation. But I generally don’t get to the date stage as I’m too shy and feel inadequate and not worth it. Think I might just keep it me and my son and then become a crazy cat lady when he leaves ?

  7. Siobhan

    November 1st, 2017 at 10:32

    Love this. I have decided to take a break from dating and focus on me due to my mental illness(es). I am pretty empathetic and giving and keen to be fair (which is also why I get freaked out about commenting on one blog post and not all the others so sometimes don’t for months) and this means I can find the process emotionally and mentally draining. On top of that, I have family stuff going on left, right and centre that requires my emotions and attention.

    So I’m taking a break to do things to make me feel better. Sorting out my health issues, my diet and sleep and snoring and all sorts else and not letting dating fill all the spaces in my mind. It allows me space to be mental (obvs) but it is getting me closer to being able to actually deal.

    So I would add stepping the fuck away if it is exacerbating everything as another way of dealing with dating with mental illness. I may date again but now I am not putting any deadline on it.

  8. Martha Molly

    November 1st, 2017 at 22:18

    I have had a similar post on my ‘to write’ list for some time now, as being in a relationship with another person is hard when you struggle with a normal functioning relationship with YOURSELF. I definitely need to try and use adopt some of these behaviours at I have spent the past few months fighting against myself more than ever (and having been in a semi-normal relationship for 5 years means that it’s getting a little bit tiresome!)

    Thanks for sharing pumpkin, YOU ROCK. X

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