Why Does Everything Feel So Forced In The Bloggersphere?

Vix xxx

  1. Lauren

    February 14th, 2018 at 09:11

    Yess, I loved this! Everything you said is spot on. I wish we could rewind 4 years ago(same year I started blogging too) when everyone was nice, joining in those #bbloggers chats every Wednesday and Sunday and there was no animosity or a need to ‘copy’ others. What happened to those chats eh? Fab post! Xx

  2. Abi Richards

    February 14th, 2018 at 09:16

    Vix, loved this post. In a really non-sucky up way, lol.

    Now cringing at all of the “Vix Meldrew Super Fan” comments and messages I’ve sent you, but I mean it, you’re a gem. And I don’t want anything from you…lol.

    Ultimately, you’re only ever going to have success in this world if you are original in whatever you do. If you truly have a voice that the world wants to listen to, you need to be able to differentiate from taking inspiration from others and being 100% influenced by their writing style to the point where it becomes imitation. It’s so transparent when you read something that doesn’t feel natural or original. I tell ya what though, it’s tough sometimes when you relate so much to others that you whack a non-you “blimming” into a blog post. I swear, sometimes shit like that just slides in through the subliminal.

    I’m constantly checking myself to think wait…is this real, is this how you would talk to a friend? If not, the why the hell am I writing it, and it can get in the bin.

    Keep doing YOU BOO
    Abi x

    PS. LOVING THESE BEAUT AT HOME IMAGES!!!

    http://www.abirichards.com

  3. Immy May

    February 14th, 2018 at 10:09

    Was really looking forward to reading this post as I have been feeling the same feelings for a while now, it all seems the saaaaaaaaaaaaame. I worry that I am going the same direction but each time I do, I just scroll right back to 2k14 and remind myself why I love writing, taking snaps and posting on my blog. I wish we could go back to the days where I thought Instagram was a private photo editing app, where I would post 5 underwear photos in a row without a care in the world, lolz. Thank you for your honesty, it’s needed. Immy x

    http://www.immymay.com

  4. Sophie

    February 14th, 2018 at 10:44

    Really loved this post, you’re not wrong though, the world of blogging has changed so much! I think it’s great to get back to basics and not forget why we started writing in the first place 🙂 x

    Sophie | https://sophieschoice.co.uk

  5. Gem

    February 14th, 2018 at 11:02

    What an interesting and well thought out post (and there’s an irony in even writing that I feel somewhat like I’m perpetuating some of the stereotypes you mention).

    I’m a new blogger, or at least I will be when I actually start the bloody thing, and I think one of the things that holds me back is the desire to NOT be falling into any of the traps you mention. But where do you draw the line? If someone has a similar writing style to another does that mean they’re emulating them? Even if it’s entirely unintentional. I’d hate to run the risk of someone reading something I write only to think ‘well x successful blogger said something similar so they’re undoubtedly copying’.

    I’d love to get in on blogging circles (if such a thing even really exists), but when you try and connect further through any social avenue you feel a bit like someone that’s walked into a party full of friends that you weren’t even invited to. What the hell are you doing there get out until you’ve been to at least 8 shops covered in flowers.

    It definitely is a minefield.

  6. Laura

    February 14th, 2018 at 11:32

    Not sucking up to you (ok maybe a bit) but this post was spot on!

    The exciting tweets are so infuriating and yet we all do them – definitely trying to keep up appearances and make sure everyone know that we’re doing just as well, if not better, than them! I think it’s a pandemic

  7. Lilly Ashton

    February 14th, 2018 at 11:36

    Okay but the salt and vinegar McCoys really are to die for.

    Lilly xoxo

  8. Ellie

    February 14th, 2018 at 12:02

    I’ve only been blogging since November ’17, but I feel like I’ve seen the full spectrum of what blogging has to offer. I am trying to be unique and bring a different voice to the blogosphere but it can be difficult! I’ve fallen into some of those traps, but ultimately when I remember why I started blogging in the first place, I’m able to just be myself and not follow the crowd.

    Great post as always!

    Ellie | elliekblog.blogspot.co.uk xx

  9. Lucie

    February 14th, 2018 at 13:04

    This was such an honest and really great post. And I really enjoy your writing. I am sure I will be returning to your blog for more.

  10. Gemma

    February 14th, 2018 at 13:52

    This post is so relatable and so fricking/frigging/fucking true. Everyday I see people guilty of the exact things you’ve talked about here (myself included) and I don’t know why I bother trying to keep up with the Jones’. I blog because I like to, and the content I write/photos I take are for me and me alone. I completely agree that the blogging community can feel forced, and I don’t know why it’s suddenly become some massive gloating lifestyle choice rather than plain and simple FUN. You absolutely hit the nail on the proverbial head with this post!
    Gemma x | HiddenLittleGem.com

  11. Alex

    February 14th, 2018 at 15:04

    I was really looking forward to this post when you mentioned it on Instagram. I’ve been reading blogs for a few years now but only started blogging myself last year and I’m already thinking about giving up! lol! It does feel like I’m always seeing the same thing and all the fake niceness. I can’t handle that in real life let alone in a digital world…and I don’t want people thinking im a miserable bitch cause I may say something slightly negative and not covered in fairy dust.
    I’ve always loved your blog because your honesty and relatability ( not being a stalker ) I just wish more bloggers still appreciated the writing rather than not even bother to read something cause the picture isn’t perfect.
    Thanks for keeping it real!!!

  12. Trona

    February 14th, 2018 at 16:59

    I’m actually taking a break from blogging (still doing my instagram though) because of many of the reasons you mention. Blogging is just getting worse and worse, more than ever people are buying followers/using bots and they get sent shit loads of stuff from PRs and are making a really good living from it. I’m increasingly uncomfortable being part of it. I’m so glad there’s people like you blogging though but there’s so much noise that genuine bloggers are being drowned out <3

  13. Charlotte

    February 14th, 2018 at 17:08

    This seems to be a big theme at the moment, with blogging as well as Youtube, everything is flashy images, expensive brand deals and youtubers with videographers and editors. It makes me sad to be honest. As happy as I am that everyone is doing so well, I miss authentic bloggers and being able to just babble about topics that you feel strongly about without worrying if it will gain traffic. Personally, I follow people who are more down to earth. I love swearing in a post because it sounds like you are having a real conversation rather than an edited version. I don’t know, it’s a tricky one as you say, but I hope that my blog remains a place without bullshit.

    my20staughtme.wordpress.com

  14. SarahJane

    February 14th, 2018 at 19:13

    I only started blogging about 5 weeks ago. I have about seven followers, I do Insta etc. I just wanted to write about stuff and now i’m in my forties, i thought I may have a slightly kooky perspective on things. I also work in marketing for a ftse 100 company although not in the sphere that any social media “influencer” would be interested in. Your post hit the spot for me. All I see at the moment is either girls with so much contouring make up – they are going to cause a plane crash from blinding a pilot when the light hits their cheekbones… To “give me your email address so that I can give you the secret to getting 10,000 followers from Pinterest.” Everything looks the same?!?!? Its all too cutesy and manufactured, look I’m not against the use of filters and the use of lovely photography but just can they not post another flat-lay with a latte, stack of magazines and a MacBook in it as they all blend into one.

    My Instagram has a theme “its called life”, I can’t do the rose gold or personal branding colours that are advised by all these “influencer gurus” whose own blogs have now taken a massive step back and they only post about once a quarter as all their time is taken up with their new marketing e-book and online course.

    There’s nothing wrong with any of it of course. I think the market will sort itself out. But I am slightly embarrassed by the writing stuff on the internet (or blogging) at the moment especially after Elle Darby and a few other recent Scandals….. Love the blog, it would seem I am starting to enjoy Twitter. You’re the second person I’ve found there that actually seems to be unique!

  15. Danielle

    February 14th, 2018 at 19:46

    This is such a great post, it was really refreshing to read!

    Danielle xx
    http://www.fashionbeautyblog.co.uk/

  16. Lauren

    February 14th, 2018 at 20:39

    Love this post! It’s so true that things feel forced these days – everyone is expected to always be positive and saying anything less than ‘yasss you’re incredible’ is labelled as ‘blogger drama’. I have a similar post in my drafts about how influencers are becoming less and less relatable.

    http://www.theemeralddove.co.uk

  17. Nicola Masters

    February 14th, 2018 at 21:07

    YES TO ALL OF THIS. I started my blog purely to give myself a showcase for my writing. I don’t promote things, and I’m not worried about followers – I just want to tell funny stories.

    BUT.

    Maybe once a month I’ll crack and look at my stats page, have a breakdown, and then compare myself to every blogger under the sun. I always manage to completely forget that while I am glad some (mostly) total strangers are doing well for themselves, I have no desire to follow in their footsteps. And then I have to have a gin and a word with myself, and then I carry on like before, but I’d have so much more time for writing if I just didn’t do the self-doubt bit in the first place.

  18. Georgie

    February 14th, 2018 at 21:36

    Can I just say “Yaaaaas Queen!” *Slow Applause*

    This post sums up exactly how I am feeling. I have tried to be someone I am not and it was so hard. I swear when I talk about something I am passionate about, so why wouldn’t I incorporate that in to my writing style? Because I was scared someone might get offended.

    Instagram scares me sometimes. I felt the need to force content out that I am not 100% happy about. I decided to stop that and post what I want and when I want and I feel happier. I even took the whole month of December off from posting blog posts to give myself some personal time, I felt guilty for a whole week and then thought – fuck it, this is my tiny corner of the internet, they can think what they want!

    My friend Amey sent me the link to this post because she knows I feel the same way. So thank you so much for creating this post. I am now going to be a creep and follow you on everything because I just love your vibe – God, that sounded cheesey!!

    Much Love,
    Georgie
    xoxo

    TheLipstickDaily

  19. Lynsey MacGregor

    February 14th, 2018 at 22:42

    Fuckin’ love this post!

    I totally feel like I don’t ‘fit in’….my insta has no theme, my Twitter isn’t all the fabulousness all the time….I like to think I give another blogger or any woman a compliment as I say what I feel….it’s not forced just what I think.
    I don’t fit the ‘trendy’ blogger look online with my social media either and sometimes I give myself a hard time about it, it gets me down.

    So thank you for making me feel a bit more ok with how I am.
    That’s why I love following you….the honest & no fucking about!

    Lynsey
    http://www.larkandlily.co.uk

  20. Leanne

    February 15th, 2018 at 11:04

    Love, love, love this. As a relatively new blogger still trying to make it in the blogosphere, I’ve already noticed a number of shall we say, habits, you have mentioned. I will say though, it is still a supportive community and social media has certainly helped build my blog. You’ll always find this girl in a hoodie though in the heat of a Texas summer it will be swapped out for a tank top and gym shorts!

  21. Alice

    February 15th, 2018 at 11:38

    I really enjoyed reading this. It’s SO easy as a blogger to try and emulate what you’ve seen work for other people – their lifestyle, their phrases, their writing/photography style… sometimes I don’t think people even realise they’re imitating someone else? But we should all try to find our own styles, and celebrate when we do. Great post as always x

    alicered.co.uk

  22. Nicole Francesca

    February 15th, 2018 at 19:46

    Vix I love this and related all too well. I recently decided to create all new social media and even a new blog I know I’m fucking crazy but I’d got. So off my own track I couldn’t claw my way back. So I thought fuck it be you do you for you and so far I’m loving it.

  23. Bumascloset

    February 16th, 2018 at 10:09

    The reasons listed above are reasons why I took a step back from blogging in terms of having blogger friends. Don’t get me wrong there are lots of amazing bloggers with great personalities but I can’t force it for the life of me. It’s draining faking it and I don’t have that energy. Great post

    http://bumascloset.co.uk

  24. Steph

    February 17th, 2018 at 12:37

    I feel like I don’t have a place in the blogging world because I’m not fake or a brown noser. I write what I want, post what I want, read what I want and if it doesn’t fit with me as a person, I just bloody well don’t bother. It’s all about numbers and connections these days instead of honest to god friendship, sincerity and a love of content. I don’t get all the fakeness and forcing.

    Steph x
    http://www.wanderlustpulse.com

  25. Josephine

    February 20th, 2018 at 11:32

    YES. THIS. I LOVE this post. ALL OF THIS POST.

  26. Charlene McElhinney

    February 26th, 2018 at 20:20

    Yes, yes, yes, 100 times yes!!!!!!

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