Growing Up, Growing Apart And Finding Your Guest List, Friendless

Vix xxx

  1. Tanya

    July 24th, 2018 at 19:20

    I relate to this post so much as I’ve just had to make a guest list for my 30th as I decided to have a big party. I realised that I don’t have many friends from back in the day, it’s very much blog friends, work friends and a very small handful of long term friends. I’m so grateful to all of those people and so happy to have them in my life but I get what you mean about having that moment of feeling friendless

  2. Lisa

    July 25th, 2018 at 07:52

    I am downright useless at making new friends. I’m not sure if my standards are too high (would explain why I’m single AND friend-less) or if I’ve just wasted too much time on people who didn’t really care in the past, but I do crave a connection with someone. A friendship connection. Where you both share interests and you’re spending time together doing nothing (or doing stupid things. Or cool things. Whatever, really), you can talk about everything and it’s just a mutual understanding that you’re there for each other. Welp, maybe one day, eh?

    Lisa, 27, also friend-less x

  3. Danni Laura

    July 25th, 2018 at 10:54

    Never related to something so much! It was a relief to read this and realise I’m not the only one who feels like this. Grown apart with a lot of people who I made friends with purely from drunken nights out and in at the age now that I don’t like doing that anymore, it’s a shock to think that maybe that’s all the friendship was based on.
    Thank you for this post!

  4. Teresa Maria

    July 25th, 2018 at 12:39

    I always thought I could make friends anywhere, anytime… Until I moved to Estonia. Jesus christ I was lonely the first year! My sole savor was Tinder. There I could find people from any other country and culture to hang out with. And when I got a new job in a big office with actual colleagues things improved…. a bit. But thankfully I have my school and Uni friends back at home and all the “new” friends from my previous travels all over Europe so I hope that these couple years stuck in Estonia haven’t traumatized me too much by the time I will be able to move away 🙂

    Teresa |

  5. Lucy

    July 25th, 2018 at 17:23

    O I feel this for so many reasons. It’s funny which ones we keep though isn’t it? I’ve had some over the years that I thought would be forever but turned out not to be and others that have turned in to forever.

  6. Kristan

    July 25th, 2018 at 18:07

    Bumble has a ‘BFF’ and Networking section as well as dating and also meet up groups are good but I know what you mean. I only have a handful of friends and though it’s quality over quantity I wish I had a group like on ‘Friends’ or ‘Sex and the City’.
    I’m in Brighton if you fancy a visit 🙂

  7. Danielle Alexa

    July 25th, 2018 at 20:24

    Making friends as an adult is such a pain in the ass. I feel so lucky to be able to connect with lots of people through work, but the number of true friends that I have still remains slim!

    Danielle xx

  8. Katie

    July 26th, 2018 at 15:16

    I feel like making friends as adults is so hard! And when you move away from people it can be so difficult to keep friendships going. It’s a sad thing, but having a few select close friends is in no way a bad thing, cherish them <3

    Katie |

  9. Harriet

    July 27th, 2018 at 22:04

    I’m exactly the same ? I moved to Brighton 3 years ago after a breakup and knew 2 people here – an ex colleague and a friend-of-a-friend. I saw them both a lot and it was great! 6 months later met my boyfriend (Tinder ?) and since then those 2 friends have bloody moved away!!

    Aside from boyf, I’ve made literally ONE new friend in that time. As in someone that I see regularly & willingly outside of work. I’m friends with his friends now too – but I’m very conscious that’s his group of friends so god forbid we broke up I’d be back to square 1.

    There needs to be a tinder for friendships! I do really miss having a group of girls mates and do feel jealous when people are still really close with their best friends from school.

  10. Jojo Huxster

    July 30th, 2018 at 12:07

    Oh I totally feel this! In my late twenties I cut a whole bunch of toxic friends out of my life and found myself having to start over. That worked out okay but now I’m in my mid thirties and between spending three years travelling and then getting back and moving to the other end of the country I’m finding that I’m there again. I have those people I can chill on the couch with eating take out and talking about anything but they live in the US or Australia or (at best) the opposite end of the UK. I recently started a Meet Up group in my new city to find some like minded friends and I’m working on strengthening some internet friendships with people in cities nearby but as of right now I have nobody in my life who would pop over on a weeknight for gin, facemarks, and pizza or meet me at the local pub for a drink or two which is, quite honestly, a bit shit.

  11. Alice

    July 31st, 2018 at 16:05

    I start a post grad uni course in a few weeks, and gosh, i just don’t know if I can be bothered to go through all that effort of making friends again! You know what I mean, it’s just so time consuming and so much harder as an adulting adult, rather than when you all get thrown into halls or school or the playground. Alice xxx

  12. Emily

    August 1st, 2018 at 08:11

    During school and college and the beginning of my time at university I always had a big group of friends, and it used to get me so overwhelmed and even though I was always surrounded by people I was never really close with anyone! Then I got ill and it really proved that all of those people were not really true friends! Nowadays, I feel so much happier now that I have a small selection of very close friends in my life, one of those is a friend since nursery but most are friends I have made over the past year and just instantly bonded with!
    I do find it quite difficult to make friends as I am getting older, however I feel the friends I do make I become very close to!
    I really enjoyed reading this post.

  13. Lauren

    August 7th, 2018 at 12:27

    My oldest friendship (22 years!) ended a few years ago and I kept having really emotional dreams about her for at least a year after. It was horrible. Luckily, my sister and I get on brilliantly so I have someone who knows me that well but it is sad I’m not friends with anyone from my childhood any more.

  14. Kate AG

    August 9th, 2018 at 09:45

    Oh my god I totally get this! I spent a lot of my ‘younger years’ clinging to friendships because I wanted to have lots of friends, but as I’ve got older, I’ve realised it’s quality not quantity that matters. I’ve even lost the person who was meant to be the BFFFFFFF – because I just couldn’t do the toxic crap anymore, and we’d just grown apart. It killed me at the time, but it was for the best.

    Sometimes I have a panic that I’ll only have a few people at my funeral (morbid much?) but then I figure, I won’t be there so what difference does it make?! I’d rather love the people that are in my life now, however many that is!

    I do want to make new friends though (hit me up!) and broaden my horizons so to speak. Plus, I think it’s good for my kids to know you don’t need to stick to a certain group of people all the time. Gah, it’s harder making new friends as an adult!

  15. Chloe

    September 5th, 2018 at 02:01

    I’ve had both. I moved to a new State at 20 and found it almost impossible to make friends. 3 years later and I finally have a handful of good ones! There is one friendship I left behind, over a silly argument and I wish it didn’t happen but the more I look at it we both had different views and standards of acceptable friendship, so many it was best it was left in 2011..

    Chloe |

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