Mental Illness and Why I Neglect Myself

Vix xxx

  1. Laura grant

    May 8th, 2017 at 19:36

    Can 110% relate to this post! Mental health comes in a variety of shapes and sizes and no one person will experience it the same as another. You just have to get through the shit times and make the most of the productive days! X

  2. Lucy

    May 8th, 2017 at 19:45

    Love this post Vix! It can be so hard to not feel self – love at times. We are battle with our selves continuously but I’m glad your making changes for yourself.

  3. Tina

    May 8th, 2017 at 19:55

    I opened this post expecting something I don’t relate to but want to learn about, but actually, I relate to this so much! Literally every single point is me. I’ve never thought of it as a major issue, just something I do, but it takes its toll. Recently I turned 30 too and realised that other people don’t live like that. They get on with things. They have routine. I have a kind of similar post ready for tomorrow about self care.
    I’m sorry you go through it too, but almost glad I’m not the only one xx

  4. Penny

    May 8th, 2017 at 19:56

    Vix <3 This is one of the most well constructed, from-the-heart, brave, important things I have read for a long time. You are worth so much – so, so much – and so many people think the absolute world of you, but MH has no regard for things life that. You feel whatever you need to feel and never ever think those things aren't valid. So much love and respect for you and I just know this post is going to help so many people.

  5. Sian

    May 8th, 2017 at 19:57

    Reading this post felt like reading something I’d written without knowing – all of it just feels SO familiar.

    One of the first things I noticed when looking back for signs that I was struggling with depression was that I wore make up even more infrequently, and it became easy to believe that my steady routine of using face and hand creams never existed! I find myself not ignoring bills, but things like popping out to the shop to get a carton of milk – which has transpired into other areas of my life. I find myself procrastinating with everything and am having to rewire my brain to just get little things, like making my bed, done and out of the way even if I naturally think to put it off until later.

    I love “Today is the first day of the rest of my life.” and will be taking it forward with me too. Thank you for this post, Vix x

  6. The Other Emma

    May 8th, 2017 at 20:25

    This is me. Know that you’re not alone and keep putting one foot in front of the other x

  7. Elizabeth

    May 8th, 2017 at 20:30

    Vix – this completely resonates with me. I am able to work and intermittently socialise – but then I crash for entire weekends. I don’t shower – I hibernate. I block out the world and drift from one bout of restless sleep to another. As I have a young family the guilt is horrific. Any form of physical illness simply exacerbates this. But I’m gradually forcing myself out of this. Thank you for such an honest and inclusive post.

  8. Zara

    May 8th, 2017 at 20:37

    Such a brave post to write. A lot of respect for you for being so honest, not just with the internet and all of us but with yourself. <3

  9. Ellie

    May 8th, 2017 at 22:03

    I loved this post Vix. You’ve got a way with words that makes everything you write feel relatable and touch each individual that reads it. These last few months have been tough, since ending a long term relationship back in November and a few flings that ended badly. I’m still trying to learn that as an individual not having that validation of a partner, I’m worthy of being loved/loving myself. Not quite there yet, but I’m trying to make a change. Small steps, but we’ll get there.

    Ellie x

  10. Emily-May

    May 8th, 2017 at 22:54

    I loved your honestly and openess in this post. I can relate, I know in myself I’m not feeling 100%, I’ll spend all my money because “it’ll cheer me up”, I’ll slob about for days just building a mess around me, and that’s just how I deal with it, more so right now than any other time in my life. But I’ve always got the ‘people have it worse than you’ voice in my head, so I carry on as much as I can.
    I’ve loved watching you find yourself over the last few months & seeing your self confidence grow, even if it is just sharing a picture of yourself that you don’t hate, it’s lovely to see.
    Keep it up pretty lady
    Emily-May x

  11. Littlemissstyleguru.

    May 8th, 2017 at 22:58

    Wow Vix you might as well be talking about me,everything you just said is me down to the putting off bills etc and I’m a mum of 3.Plus I’m 38 so nope it doesn’t go away and does control you I hate it. Great read as always hun and from one greasy haired none getting dressed to another…..Im here to chat anytime you need to hun always remember you have somebody xxx (hugs) Xxx

  12. Giz

    May 9th, 2017 at 06:04

    Love you, Vix. I think you’re fab for sharing this so openly. You looked hawt yesterday so keep making that choice gyal x

  13. Immy May

    May 9th, 2017 at 10:49

    Ah Vix, I just bloomin’ love your writing, you explain this difficult head space so well. It is true, the state of my mental health correlates so much with how I look after myself. I not only neglect myself, but I just lose grip on the basics, I get forgetful and it just sends everything round in a vicious cycle. Mental health like general health will always be something to look after, all the way through life. We can do it! Immy x

  14. Kylie

    May 9th, 2017 at 12:14

    This is one of those posts that you open and assume your not going to be able to imagine how it must feel. But when i opened it i found so much more that i could relate to personally. Im so glad you had the courage and bravery to write this post so that other women can understand that what there going through isn’t an individual circumstance and that there are others out there who can understand. Your post made me realise that i need to discover a love for myself that i dont currently have. Thanks again for an inspiring post! x

  15. Alice

    May 9th, 2017 at 15:09

    This is a fantastic and heartfelt post and so good highlighting the aspects and signs of mental health that often go unnoticed or are mistaken for laziness. Really hope you can fight your demons and show yourself the self love you deserve! Alice xxx

  16. Helen

    May 9th, 2017 at 15:40

    I’m always so excited to see that you’ve posted something, and I’m very inspired to write a blog post about this. When life kicks me in my stomach I eat shit I don’t even like, I’ll leave the house not smelling the greatest, I can’t even listen to music which is something I absolutely love, it’s almost as if I’m punishing myself! It’s good to know that I’m not alone. At 29 I’m more confident than ever, but feeling mentally unwell is a constant struggle.

    Don’t ever stop blogging!


  17. Issy Belle

    May 9th, 2017 at 17:27

    This is such an insightful post on the effects of mental health. Well done for being so candid xx

  18. Mike

    May 10th, 2017 at 12:29

    A great post, thank you for sharing. I’m sending you positive thoughts and hugs.

  19. Mike

    May 10th, 2017 at 12:30

    A great post, thank you for sharing your mental health story. I’m sending you positive thoughts and hugs.

  20. ly

    May 10th, 2017 at 14:44

    It would never occur to me call what you described self harm. I just considered life with mental illness. I suppose because I don’t consider any of those thing conscious acts. I don’t look after myself when my mental health is bad because I can’t. Self harm is an entirely different thing for me. I’m not saying you’re wrong. I know there is no right. I just find myself surprised with this way of looking at things & that surprises me. In any case, I hope you are managing to treat yourself right.xx

  21. A different Mike

    May 10th, 2017 at 15:23

    You should pat yourself on the back for identifying and addressing these behaviors at 30. I’m 48 and working on these same issues. The exact behaviors may be different but the goal is the same. This is a very quiet, even sneaky form of self harm that no one else can see, and the effects may be even worse than those that hurt themselves in an outward way, because it is a constant chipping away at the self. A cut steps hurting and the skin heals, but this pain doesn’t end and no healing takes place.

    Good luck on your journey and thank you for sharing your story!

  22. Holly White

    May 12th, 2017 at 06:37

    This is an amazing and honest post, Vix. Mental health is so complex and comes in so many different forms.

    Sending lots of love xxx

  23. Lauren

    May 13th, 2017 at 14:10

    I totally relate! I can tell when I’m going through a bad patch of mental health because I will eat rubbish from morning til night and do no exercise whatsoever.

  24. Megan

    May 14th, 2017 at 14:54

    Thank you for sharing your experiences with us Vix. It’s interesting to see how it affects different people and that the signs can be completely different. Sending you all the love.

    Megan. xo
    Thumbelina Lillie | UK Beauty & Lifestyle Blog

  25. Emma

    May 16th, 2017 at 11:56

    I can 100% relate to this Vix, mainly because I share so many of those traits with you yet until I read this I would never have thought of them in this way – I have spent far too long mentally & (in some cases) physically abusing myself and it is time to start being a little kinder to mysef.

    Emma |

  26. Claire

    May 27th, 2017 at 00:16

    I’m glad you took the time to self-examine and think it as a positive way. There is definitely a lot of ways self-harm can happen, and I think this post also brings awareness to those who feel self-conscious, and give some hope!

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