My Struggle with Body Image

Vix xxx

  1. Linz

    October 31st, 2016 at 08:23

    I love this post, thank you for sharing. A lot of it resonates with me. I have a lot of hang ups and issues and knowing I am not the only one who both functions in society and has these is very refreshing.

  2. Lizi

    October 31st, 2016 at 09:44

    I’m so glad you posted this as I relate to every single bloody word.

  3. Jenny

    October 31st, 2016 at 12:13

    This article made me want to cry that you feel like that. Don’t get me wrong, I totally get it. The guys saying that they would “settle” with you were dicks just sayin’. First up you are so right, why are woman crushed if they are like yo I love this part of my body, it should be celebrated. But past that – it does sometimes feel like you need somebody else to validate appearance and it is all fine and well your best girlfriends called you hot AF but sometimes it isn’t enough, I get that. Something I have started doing almost all the time when I meet people is compliment them. It is the nicest feeling to see somebody smile at a compliment that you have said! You are so right though we should continue to build each other up!

    Okay this comment was long as hell, some may even say mammoth so I am soz about that. Also this new layout and logo is fucking killing it and I am loving everything on the blog right now. K bye.

    Jenny | jacandthebox.co.uk

  4. Abigail

    October 31st, 2016 at 17:58

    I can totally relate to this post and really love the way you’ve expressed this struggle that I think so many women feel. My lack of confidence often comes from comments people have made about me in the past whether it was about my skin or my nose (I have a big issue with it!) and sometimes I look at my self and I’m like ‘Shit they were so right.’ But then sometimes I’m completely in love with how I look and couldnt be more grateful with the body and health I’ve been given. I hope eventually I can banish the old awful comments that still havent healed.

    Abigail Alice x

  5. Kelly Hoggons

    October 31st, 2016 at 20:29

    I absolutely loved this. I – and I’m sure so many other bloggers – relate to this so strongly. You’re absolutely gorgeous babe, so I hope your days of feeling banging and hot AF become more frequent! You’re amazing.

    Kelly x

  6. Carly

    October 31st, 2016 at 22:05

    I was feeling like real crap yesterday and had a massive rant with my mate about every main point in this post. It does feel like shit to always be the “one with personality” and to be the girl that all the boys talk to about other girls etc. I just have all the feels about this post, absolutely spot on. Thank you for sharing, it is nice to be able to relate to someone. I just like to keep thinking that one day there will be someone who I fancy that can’t help but think the sun shines out my ass.

  7. Amy

    November 1st, 2016 at 12:05

    Babe this is so relatable it’s unreal and SO many people will relate to this – I think most people look to others for validation of their appearance whereas we should just validate it ourselves! Easier said than done though and I’m definitely guilty of feeling less confident in myself just because of what someone else has said! You’re a babe though and you are right, your bone structure is fiiiiine!
    Amy xx
    http://www.callmeamy.co.uk

  8. Albertine Brandon

    November 1st, 2016 at 12:47

    I think everyone has moments when they look in the mirror/see photos of themselves and thinks CHRIST ALMIGHTY WHAT IS THAT?!

    I myself am 100% convinced I look like a penguin/winnie the pooh most days because I’m literally bloated all the time…I’m also 100% certain my features are too small for my face so it looks like someone’s manually shrunk them in photoshop in each photo of me…but then some days and in some photos I think I look fit AF!

    It’s really hard to ignore negative thoughts about how you look, but you should know you look gorgeous in photos and, if you can, try and let the compliments sink in more than the criticisms, the more you believe in your own beauty the more other people will see it and appreciate it!

    x

  9. Kayleigh

    November 1st, 2016 at 20:31

    So much of what you said resonated with me. There are so many things I went through when I was younger that have stuck with me now, even though I do have a boyfriend who thinks I’m beautiful and sexy. When he says that I can’t help wondering what he’s seeing, because I don’t see it, and I want to. I know he isn’t just saying that. After ten years together, when he’s said the same thing over and over, it gets to the point where you kinda have to believe he’s seeing something else, something you don’t see when you look in the mirror.

    Reading something like this helps. Seeing the comments helps. We all go through the same thing, because we’re told we need to be perfect, and to be perfect we need to look like whoever the big thing is. What I want to do is learn to accept my body for what it is, but it’s not going to be an easy task.

    Oh, and this comes from a total stranger, but I think you’re beautiful. 🙂

  10. Karina

    November 2nd, 2016 at 09:39

    Such a beautifully written post Vix. It’s so true that we need to stop seeking validation from others, whether it’s boys, friends or even our own family! No-one actually has a guide on how to love yourself but expressing ourselves is a bloody great start so thank you for this. I think it’s important to speak up, support each other and try really hard to stop comparing ourselves. I like to practice affirmations in the morning and the change/confidence I see in myself compared to how I was a couple years ago is massive! Thanks again for a lovely post x p.s you. are. gorgeous!

  11. Rachael Dickinson

    November 6th, 2016 at 17:02

    Such a thoughtful post. Most days I feel like “three faces of Eve”.

    Rachael xox
    http://gatsbyandglamour.blogspot.com

  12. Kendel @ Little Misadventures

    November 19th, 2016 at 05:33

    Have you crawled into my brain? Cause GURL, I swear you have. I 100% agree that we are our own worst enemies, but being so ‘online’ and having our lives/ourselves scrutinised by strangers can be daunting and it definitely doesn’t help. At all.

    I’m currently 27 weeks pregnant, and I am ‘getting big’. I like to say ‘more pregnant’ to avoid saying fat. I’m not fat. I’m pregnant. Being pregnant has really changed the way that I look at myself and others. I was a waif when I got pregnant. 45kg. That’s nothing. However, looking back, I thought that I needed to lose weight and that I looked horrible. I want to go shake my past self and tell her to WORK IT GURL and own those *few* curves that I do have.

    I know you said that Twitter followers don’t ‘count’, but I’m going to say this anyway: You are a babe and I think I have a mild girl crush on you. No lie.