Why You Need A Fuck It Bucket
The Fuck It Bucket. An imaginary receptacle to put everything I want to do but would normally be too scared to do. Here’s more about what it is and why you need one.
What is a Fuck It Bucket?
When my Mum passed away, I had an epiphany in life. I realised that the thing I wanted more than anything else was to have made her proud of me. I’m sure she was when she passed but I needed to ensure that for as long as I lived, I did things that would’ve made her beam and do her excited-over-the-phone-voice as if I had really told her. She used to do this thing where every time I’d go to bingo with her, her mate Joan would go, ‘Oh is this the daughter with the blog who teaches? How did your event go?’ and I’d know that 73 year old Joan with her husband Bert and 2 grown up sons wasn’t reading my blog for blowjob tips but that my Mum would’ve been gushing about me.
So I made the conscious decision that if an opportunity was put in front of me that I would love to do, whether I was terrified or not, I’d have to do it. Metaphorically giving Joan something new to ask me about.
Those opportunities are the ones that when you weigh up whether you should do them or not, they make you go, ‘Yeah, fuck it.’
What goes in the Fuck It Bucket?
Staying out too late on a school night when I’m having fun.
Going to Wrestlemania with virtual strangers.
Hitting up Edinburgh Fringe.
Dying my hair pink.
Telling my headteacher about my favourite vibrators.
Going to Blogging events that I’d normally feel too shy to rock up to.
Dating a guy just because it’s fun without hope for a future.
Doing stand up comedy.
That sorta thing!
Why you need a Fuck It Bucket
Simply, life is too short. You only have a finite amount of days on this planet.
My Mum got to the end of her life with regrets of not going after, ‘The One’, of not pursuing a career in journalism and for spending her life worrying about mistakes she had made.
If she had had a Fuck It Bucket where she could toss all of those things that scared but excited her – she would’ve relished it.
The Fuck It Bucket has helped me lead my best life. Without it, I wouldn’t have gone on a last minute date and stayed out late getting to know and falling for the guy I’m now with. I wouldn’t have had some of my best trips. I wouldn’t have gone on stage this week and won a stand up comedy slam. Probably wouldn’t have gotten up to half of the things, with men I probably shouldn’t have either but they’re things Joan wouldn’t have been told.
So get yourself a Fuck It Bucket and let me know ASAP, what’s going in yours.
Vix xxx
September 11th, 2017 at 2:15 pm
This is something I put as part of my New Year’s resolutions but still haven’t quite stuck to it, if I’m being completely honest. Your post just reminded me, gave me a massive slap in the face and made me determined to make the most of the last quarter of 2017 and every month of every year after that! x
September 11th, 2017 at 3:23 pm
The biggest thing I ever put in the Fuck It Bucket was a 6 month solo travelling trip when I got to a point of just being unbearably bored of life and work and having wanted to do it for ages with a friend who ended up saying she couldn’t go for another few years. Despite being absolutely terrified it ended up being the best thing I’ve ever done hands down, so I’m a big fan of this kind of attitude. I feel like I’ve kind of lost it a bit in the last few months though, so thanks for the reminder to live my best life xxx
September 11th, 2017 at 10:16 pm
This post really got me thinking.. i definitely neef a fuck it bucket. Theres so many things i constantly put off because im a little scared…even if i really want to do them! Gonna try take a leaf outta your book Vix x
Sinead | Dreaming Again
September 12th, 2017 at 12:18 pm
YES I need one of these in my life. I think what would go in it would be a cheeky £50 return flight to Copenhagan, and if people can’t join me, just go on my tod. Fuck itttttttt. Lovely post chick 🙂 Immy x
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September 12th, 2017 at 4:01 pm
I love a fuck it bucket. Although mine is starting to overflow somewhat…
September 13th, 2017 at 6:22 am
LOVE this. I definitely need to take more oppourtunites/risks.
September 13th, 2017 at 8:24 pm
My fuck it bucket is full of spontaneity, things that scare me and things that worry me … I put open water swimming in the fuck it bucket last month and I bloody loved it!
Emma | HarmonyBlaze.co.uk
September 25th, 2017 at 2:06 pm
I absolutely do this! When I was younger, it landed me in some sticky situations but now I use it a bit more sensibly to go after my real dreams. Going to link to this in my newsletter 🙂
October 2nd, 2017 at 9:30 pm
2017 was the year where every little thing ,which was out of my comfort zone , had been a ‘Fuck it’ moment. So my fuck it bucket for 2017 is overflowing. It’s a good way to experience so many things.
I love this post. I know that it doesn’t beat your mum’s excited-over-the-phone-voice but I’m sure she would be proud of you.
October 9th, 2017 at 7:38 pm
What a great idea! I’m gonna try this, great way to be actionable about taking risks.