Should We Reward Men For Doing The Bare Minimum?

Vix xxx

  1. Amanda

    January 12th, 2018 at 21:09

    I couldn’t agree with everything in this post more! My husband Sam and I split everything fairly evenly (cooking, cleaning, family things) and people always tell me how “lucky” I am if I mention that Sam’s already home cooking dinner and I’m on my way home. Obviously I love him to bits, but it’s ridiculous that our fair split in duties just makes me “lucky”.

  2. Em Clarkson

    January 13th, 2018 at 15:15


  3. Danielle

    January 13th, 2018 at 16:03

    This is such an amazing post. I agree with every single thing that you have mentioned in this post. I make sure that me and my other half do everything completely evenly. I had to train him up, but now he can do the dishes without expecting a pat on the back!

    Danielle xx

  4. Sophie

    January 13th, 2018 at 18:07

    Thank you THANK-YOU for this! i was saying the exact same thing to my mum and dad last week. Mum was talking about the men in her work (she’s the only female on the director’s board) and kept saying “to be fair to them” and making so many allowances – dad said to her “stop putting them on a pedestal! for just doing their job”. She would never praise herself for the things she praises them for, but it was refreshing to see my dad call it out and give men the hard time!

    Couldn’t agree with you more on this, i felt the exact same way listening to Munn.

    Bumble and Be

  5. Frankie

    January 13th, 2018 at 20:30

    I can’t even begin to explain how much I relate to this post. I hear so often when I am out and somebody touches me inappropriately that that is simply the way drunken guys act. But it isn’t right and definitely not ok!

    So thanks for this post and hopefully there are many many people out there who read it too
    Love, Frankie

    Btw love you and the new direction of the blog 🙂 was awesome before but now it’s incredible!!

  6. Madeleine

    January 13th, 2018 at 22:53

    I was saying to my mum that C expects some sort of medal for taking out the bins or putting a wash on, she laughed and said that that’s men, they can’t just do things, they need to be rewarded for everything. Which is why she never thanks or congratulates my dad for doing the odd chore. She might seem mean but considering all the work she has always done, it makes total sense.

  7. Steph

    January 14th, 2018 at 20:35

    I’ve never really thought too much about this before but you’re so right. Even simple things like my boyfriend expects to be congratulated and thanked for washing the dishes but why? I do it every day and it is never even acknowledged. Its pulling your weight not something to be applauded.

    Steph x

  8. Rosie

    January 15th, 2018 at 14:25

    Yes yes yes to all of this, Vix, My husband is the main cook in our house, I do the cleaning – this is how it’s been for the 12 years we’ve been together and despite this being our choice and Mr P actually enjoying cooking, I still get the “aren’t you lucky?” comments. It’s infuriating. Should he ever mention to his male friends that I take charge of the cleaning, I doubt he would get the same response because, after all, that’s what women are meant to do, isn’t it? x

  9. katie

    January 16th, 2018 at 07:05

    you are a complete and utter total fucking legend, vm.

  10. Laura

    January 17th, 2018 at 10:35

    couldn’t agree more with this post! xx

  11. Jenny

    January 19th, 2018 at 18:26

    This was such an interesting post to read Vix! I found myself nodding along such a lot too x

    Jenny | LuxeStyle

  12. Lii

    January 20th, 2018 at 12:54

    I agree with you! Yes, I feel lucky that I have a fiance who does his fair share and sometimes more in our house and our daily life, but I feel lucky because it seems to be the “norm” that men and boys don’t usually do this in the house. For me, it is what I expect of a person who lives with me and wants to share a life with me. Hearing girlfriends tales about men who don’t do their share just makes me think that I wouldn’t even put up with such a behaviour and none of us should. The problem is not only that we say “boys will be boys” is that we do not expect more from them. Mothers cradle their “darling” boys and girls are thought to take a man who can bare her. The attitudes are changing and I hope the next generation will not have to say they are lucky, but have the understanding of things being equal.
    Thank you for this post, it was great!

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