Why I’ll Be Taking My Husband To Be’s Surname

Vix xxx

  1. Georgina

    July 19th, 2018 at 11:09

    Totally with you, it’s about choice. Me and my fiance are both going double-barrelled, but ironically for similar reasons to yourself. Family. Adding his name to mine, and mine to his, makes us both feel part of both families.

  2. Iona

    July 19th, 2018 at 12:18

    It’s so lovely to see you so happy, I’ve never really felt the ‘need’ to get married but I’m sure if/when I meet the perfect person like you did I would want to x

  3. Rosie

    July 19th, 2018 at 12:49

    Since I got engaged it’s the first heated question I got along with who’s walking me down the aisle. I’m taking my man’s name and I can’t wait to be man and wife and have our own little family!

  4. Liz

    July 19th, 2018 at 15:03

    I didn’t, although when we had our daughter I went double-barrelled (she has my husband’s surname). It was important to me to keep my name in my surname, but I totally get your reasoning too. Every situation is different, and like you said it’s all about having the choice.

  5. Teresa Maria

    July 19th, 2018 at 16:33

    I’m always surprised at those who call themselves feminists just to tell everyone what all they are doing wrong. Taking your husband’s name is the most normal thing to do! Although I’m totally for the fact that it makes a strong Girl Power-era gal think about it before doing it.
    I myself would never change my name. Simply because it’s so rare and it has no resemblance of the language or the country where I was born. For some reason I really love that 😀

  6. Gabrielle Albon

    July 19th, 2018 at 16:51

    “It sounded gash” was the highlight of this post for me ?? I took my husband’s surname for quite a lot of the same reasons – as much as I love my family, I’ve had a lot of shitty times (typical child of divorce) but I wanted to create our own unit and getting married was important for me to show myself that not all marriages end in heartbreak!
    Gaby xx

  7. booksandbrooches

    July 19th, 2018 at 17:18

    That is exactly it isn’t it? Choice. I think the idea of a new family unit is beautiful and what made me smile even more is that you’re wearing a ‘your name here’ T-shirt which I thought was very apt!
    I am so very happy for you x

  8. Tasha

    July 19th, 2018 at 17:22

    I didn’t realise this was such a thing, maybe because I hate my surname and am more than happy to get shot of it haha! Though my partners isn’t much better ? surnames don’t make a family though (my daughter has her father’s and we split up a long time ago!) It’s just nice to have the choice I think!
    It’s lovely that your choosing to take Ben’s name and I wish you both all the happiness in the world ♥️

  9. Chloe

    July 19th, 2018 at 19:23

    I love the emphasis on choice. I will most probably be taking my boyfriends surname (although that’s several years down the line!) for very similar reasons. I don’t have any kind of sentimental connection to my surname and I’ve never really though of doing anything different. But equally I know my sister wants to double-barrel because she feels like it’s part of her identity.
    You just gotta do what feels right for you!

  10. Lucy

    July 19th, 2018 at 19:53

    Such a great post Vix, I’m not engaged and probably won’t be for some time but this is something I’ve thought about before. I think I’d take my husbands surname though, purely because I hate my own surname!

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  11. Katie

    July 19th, 2018 at 20:33

    I don’t really feel any attachment to my surname, and I hate how many people either say it or spell it wrong, so I’d quite happily take my future husbands surname. (Though if his was worse I might think twice about that!) But just having the choice nowadays is so important – it does seem like its way more accepted now to mix up what you do with the surname, whether thats you taking his or him taking yours. And that’s all good!

  12. Melina

    July 19th, 2018 at 23:39

    Like you said, I have always considered myself a feminist, but I never considered it a bad thing to take my significant other’s name name when I was younger. I didn’t think it was honestly a big deal. As I’ve gotten older, I don’t know what I’m going to do in the future. I think it’s a mix of how it blends with my first name, and how we decide to figure it out together. Great post Vix! xxx

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  13. Chloe

    July 20th, 2018 at 10:12

    I will also be taking my husbands name in a few months, and it certainly wasn’t an easy choice! Ideally we’d double-barrel, but it would end up being 21 characters involved an F, Z, Y and 2 Ks, so a bit of a mouthful and nightmare to spell! Both of our surnames are quite unique and I’m gutted to be loosing mine, but equally I can’t imagine not having the same name as him and our future (fingers crossed) children. I have decided I’m going to officially move my maiden name to be a second middle name – so whilst my offical name will be ridiculously long, it still retains my identity and I won’t use it all the time.

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  14. Mark Langlay-Smith

    July 20th, 2018 at 21:50

    Wahhooo welcome to the Langlay-Smith unit! It’s a gooden! So happy for you guys and a really great article 🙂 xx

  15. Danielle Alexa

    July 21st, 2018 at 18:11

    I really loved reading this blog post, I think when it comes to next year when its my turn, I will be taking my husbands name too!

    Danielle xx

  16. Amy

    July 22nd, 2018 at 08:40

    I did, for the same reasons you stated. I don’t have a relationship with my father anymore so had considered changing my name anyway. The only downside was that previously, my initials spelled my name. Now they don’t spell anything, but I’m happy with my decision.

  17. Emma

    July 23rd, 2018 at 11:35

    I kept my surname for work for the first year after we married, purely because It was easier and that was how everyone knew me. Privately I took my husbands name. Like you say, a name does not define who you are, and your surname is likely the name that your Mum took from your Dad anyway so surely it’s still taking a man’s name. Feminism is about choice, it is about what I choose to do as a woman. Surely by having staunch rules about what constitutes feminism we are simply trading a patriarchy for a dictatorial matriarchy.

  18. Rosie

    July 27th, 2018 at 08:45

    Good for you, Vix. I also took my husband’s name when we got married, purely because I liked it better than my old name. I’m sick of seeing people berating women who decide to change their names and think you’re absolutely right that true feminism is all about the power of having a choice. Best of luck to you both – I’m sure your marriage will be long, prosperous and full of love. I look forward to reading all about it x

  19. Lauren

    August 7th, 2018 at 12:24

    Such a good post Vix! Mike and I aren’t even engaged yet but I’ve already decided I won’t take his name. I was adopted by my step-dad when I was 12 so I’ve already changed my name once and A) can’t be bothered doing it again and B) Since I have no biological link to my dad, I like that we share a name. Also, Mike’s cousin is called Lauren so we don’t need another Lauren Munro in the family to confuse things! We’re not having kids either so there’s no worry about what they’ll be called.

  20. last year's girl

    August 24th, 2018 at 11:21

    I kept my name, for the reasons I wrote about here, but since your professional/writing name was always different from your “actual” name you don’t have most of the same considerations I did anyway!

    I suspect that, had my husband and I ever had any interests in kids, we’d have wanted to come up with a different solution but this works well for us. Although having a Google-unique name creates its own set of problems, haha.


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