Why I’m Learning To Stop Talking Behind Other People’s Backs

Vix xxx

  1. Amy

    April 20th, 2018 at 14:14

    The thing that made me decide to change was when I was talking about a friend behind her back and she was actually literally right behind me so heard every word. It made me feel awful and also consider how I would feel if I could hear everything people were saying about me behind my back. I always try and think before I speak now and about why i want to say what I’m going to say – if I wouldn’t say something to someone’s face, I try not to say it (although I can’t pretend I never ever say things I shouldn’t about people because then you’d talk about how much of a liar I am haha)
    Amy xx

  2. Cydney

    April 20th, 2018 at 18:44

    So fucking well said. I recently cut off a friend because I realised most of our conversations were bad mouthing or gossiping about other people. Turns out she was doing the same to me aha surprise surprise!! I’ve tried to become more conscious of not being a bitch basically and thinking before I say anything negative about someone else

  3. Danielle Alexa

    April 21st, 2018 at 15:53

    I feel like we all get to a stage where we decide to make a positive change like this. But, then again, I work in an office with some women in their 40’s who are cattier than the 20 year olds!

    Danielle xx

  4. Kylie

    April 21st, 2018 at 19:01

    Great Post Vix! As girls people think it comes naturally to us to bitch about other girls or even guys, but like you said we need to break free of that and come to terms with the fact that whilst theres always going to be people we don’t particularly get along with, we don’t need to rant about them behind there back. I always think about how I would feel if I walked in on someone bad mouthing me to someone else, id hate it. So I’ve made more of an effort to avoid it, in my new job gossip travels at the same speed as the train I’m on and everyone knows someone, so its just not worth getting involved in idle chit chat.! Maybe we should try and come up with at least one positive for every person we particularly don’t like.

    Kylie | http://www.firstforeverything.co.uk

  5. MEL

    April 22nd, 2018 at 18:20

    I like to live by the rule of keeping something to yourself these days. If you’ve got a shitty thought about someone it’s probably just that – a shitty thought. Opinions can change and just because you don’t like one thing about someone (or maybe a couple of things) it doesn’t mean that they’re a crappy person. You’re right though, sometimes it does just feel really good to have a grand old bitch about someone who’s been annoying you though… just choose wisely who you offload to I suppose.

    Mel ★ http://www.meleaglestone.co.uk

  6. kerry

    April 24th, 2018 at 09:26

    I couldn’t agree more with this post, and have been on both sides of the road with this. I was the person that engaged in gossip and trash talk, excusing it as girls being girls. Then, two years ago, an incredibly toxic person came into my life and destroyed my whole group of friends. I had found out something about her, and asked her outright about it. She knew I was on to her, (she was having an affair with one of the other person in our groups husband) so set out to destroy me. She made up lies, she massively exaggerated the things said in gossip sesh’s, she basically trash talked about me until my entire group of friends turned on me. It was one of the most difficult, crushing and destructive things that has happened in my life. I was destroyed emotionally and mentally and vowed that I would never talk badly, or behind someones back again. I know first hand the damage it can do! Fabulous post x

  7. JJ

    May 9th, 2018 at 13:12

    When I was twelve, I was “friends” with a bunch of girls at my school. They used to talk about me behind my back, to my face, using the name “maths” and constantly saying stupid crap like “Oh maths is so boring/I hate maths!”. Some of these same girls later spread rumours about me, and I’m not saying I’ve never said anything about someone behind their backs, but there’s trash talking and then there’s bullying. Apparently there’s a fine line between the two.

    Nowadays, I have a fab group of gals and I am thankful, but on occasion we do talk about each other behind each other’s back – say “ooh she’s got a new job XYZ etc”. I think it’s fine to talk about someone behind their backs as long as it’s something you’d be happy to repeat to their face.

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