When Blogging Turns You Into A Prick

Vix xxx

  1. Jessica

    October 24th, 2017 at 09:52

    I know the boots reply was a little “I told you it was on my blog ffs” kind of thing,instagram is very different to other platforms.A lot of people aren’t following your other socials,so when they ask a question about something you’re showing,it shouldn’t be a problem.Unless you’re not getting any clicks and are desperate…but i doubt she isn’t.
    I don’t think you should feel like you cant take offers in fear itll start to make you out to be some blogger princess!Anyone who has read your blog for a while can tell you put in so much hard work and damn well deserve that hair pampering and day to disney!Reap the rewards of hard graft Vix!
    As for blogger drama,it really has not died!I had to mute a few people on twitter because they were just constantly tweeting out shit!I understand the whole you cant have positive vibes 24/7 but my god some people will moan about fucking anything!
    I would love to know why people use bots,everyone knows we can sus it a mile away.Engagment is a huge giveaway,15k insta following and avg 100 likes a photo?!I can’t even tell you how hard it is to gain even a 100 followers in a month,posting everyday,hours of engaging and still feel like your shit…
    I love retweeting the blogs i read,who doesn’t.Since my break in my blog,my view completely changed and im just happy to still have genuine people to chat with about shit but i see it all the time with bigger bloggers not really taking the time to reply to someone’s questions etc.As for people abusing events,i hope those shitheads never get invited to one again!Events are about brands and making more friends,they dont understand how lucky they’re to even get the opportunity to meet people they’ve connected with over social media.It makes me so sad!Anyway sorry for they long comment,hope you and the boyf are good x

  2. Lady Writes

    October 24th, 2017 at 08:54

    Omg Vix you are BANG on the money with this – as usual. I totally feel the same about it all. SO well put! X

  3. Jenny

    October 24th, 2017 at 11:00

    I loved this post! I do my best to share posts I’ve loved on Twitter and on my blog too and I must admit, I find it quite sad and off-putting sometimes when I share people’s content saying how fab it is and don’t even get a thank you! If anyone says nice things about my blog etc, I always try to say thank you and tell them it’s appreciated x

  4. Kim

    October 24th, 2017 at 11:27

    I love this! Hannah Gale tweeted the link to this and I’m glad I found you… hi! I’m now your newest follower. Keep up the good fight ???

  5. Holly Shannon

    October 24th, 2017 at 11:36

    I’ve only been blogging two years but it’s definitely been changing in the time I’ve been around. I’ve recently seen a surge of Facebook groups for bloggers where people are saying “I’ve written two posts, what should I charge for a sponsored post?” GAH! xx

  6. Lauren

    October 24th, 2017 at 11:42

    This is so true! My biggest gripe is when bloggers who I’ve been reading and engaging with for years (people I’d kinda consider friends) suddenly act distant once they gain a few more followers.
    I’ve been really enjoying your posts lately tbh. I like how you say it how it is and don’t try to sugar coat things.

    http://www.theemeralddove.co.uk

  7. Becky

    October 24th, 2017 at 11:57

    This post is super accurate, Vix. Although it’s not nice to admit, things have been more self-indulgent of late and I’ve definitely noticed the lack of community.

    One thing I’ve been doing these last few months has been being more honest in blogging. I haven’t been following people back on Insta if I don’t like their content, I haven’t been commenting on blog posts that don’t evoke anything in me BUT I’ve been heavily engaging with the things I love – that sort of thing.

    At first, I felt a bit mean, but then I realised that by being honest I was giving my energy and time (to read, scroll, engage) to the right people for me. Since then I’ve built up online friendships, grown my blog and *enjoyed* it all a lot more – basically making ME less like a prick who engages with things falsely and follows back automatically out of fear.

    There’s still a long way to go, but with The Blog Race and starting conversations like this, ? I think we might get there eventually – at least in part.

    Becky 🙂

  8. Elizabeth @ Rosalilium

    October 24th, 2017 at 12:11

    This has totally reminded me of a couple of events I’ve been to in the past where I’ve watched some bloggers walk in, take a goody bag and walk back out. It’s not only the height of rudeness, but also terribly short-sighted. This is a relatively small industry, if you behave like a douche it will get noticed and noted. Why would anyone want to work with unprofessional bloggers when they are so many other great creators out there.
    Silly people.

  9. Leigh at Fashion Du Jour LDN

    October 24th, 2017 at 11:37

    Praise be for this post! I too have noticed how “pricky” the ol’ Bloggosphere has been getting and the stalemate of people trying to boost themselves, whilst not supporting others. We all want to grow and we can do that by clubbing together, but it seems a culture of not following someone will help your blog grow?! It’s a bizarre logic. I love to like, share, retweeted as much as possible – it’s a nice non-pricky thing to do! In fact, I’m going to share this post to get the message out ?

    Thanks for sharing,

    Leigh at Fashion Du Jour LDN x
    http://www.fashiondujour.co.uk

  10. Steph Dring

    October 24th, 2017 at 12:45

    I think there used to be quite the little community in blogging but now it’s more of a competition… and not necessarily a friendly one. Instead of being all about ourselves, we should totally be about girl power and supporting each other.

    Steph x
    http://www.wanderlustpulse.com

  11. Alice

    October 24th, 2017 at 12:52

    Absolutely fantastic post Vix, said it exactly like it is!! Alice xxx

    http://www.woodenwindowsills.co.uk

  12. marie aygat

    October 24th, 2017 at 12:55

    Gosh so true ! Have been blogging for just over 3 years now and even so its not actually a long time the community changed a lot since then and I have to admit I miss the ‘old ‘ days ! I used to have so many comments , discussions etc. now they just a rarity also I often re-tweet great blog posts…but people never do with mine …I have to say its easy to fall into the habit of ‘let yourself go’ and not be bothered by sharing great posts etc. because you never get a thanks or …well nothing in return !!! also I lost the amount of time I engaged with someone tweets and I will, in 99% of the time, get NO reply. I fond it frustrating and it make me more selfish as now I almost don’t do it ( I think more about me and my blog …sorry but the ‘community’ make me do it) because I feel like i am just wasting my time and to be cleared those people i send tweets to are not ‘famous bloggers’ with 100k of followers they just people with a manageable amount of followers just like me. Same with their blogs ! I still comments on many blogs because well i love reading blogs but it is true that i get rarely replies those days. 🙁

    https://allornothing-blog.blogspot.co.uk/

  13. Tamara Tanner

    October 24th, 2017 at 13:31

    Oh my! This post couldn’t be any more true if you tried. I remember the days where bloggers used to help out others by sharing a post now and then. Now a days it seems more and more people are choosing the path of blogging as a way to get freebies. True bloggers know that there are no such thing as freebies in the blogging world.
    Where has the love gone? The majority is all self now.

  14. Sarah

    October 24th, 2017 at 15:08

    Completely agree about engagement. Bloggers only seem to share their own content. If I follow a blogger who only schedules tweets full of their own posts over and over on a loop, I’ll unfollow them.

    Any posts I share have an individual, unique tweet with them, and I try to engage with other bloggers, leave comments, etc.

    Great post!

  15. Amy

    October 24th, 2017 at 15:48

    The blogosphere definitely feels very competitive at the moment and although competitiveness isn’t always a bad thing there does seem to be less of people bigging each other up for sure. I was really surprised at the Blog Race – I was sat ready to join in with the first Twitter chat but then nobody who wasn’t part of it seemed to be joining in – it would be great if it could become a real chat between everyone who’s read the content that week (as I’m sure lots of people are!).
    Amy xx
    http://www.callmeamy.co.uk

  16. Jess

    October 25th, 2017 at 11:31

    This is such a good post! I agree with every single point! I haven’t experienced personally any of the negative sides of blogging but I’ve seen it and it’s not nice. I honestly feel that we all are here doing things we love and share things in common so why not support each other?!
    Jess x

  17. Julia

    October 25th, 2017 at 12:21

    Well I LOVED this post and I feel like there is a bit of staleness and prick’ishness within blogging, but I kind of try and turn away from that. I do feel that people are engaging less and less but maybe that’s just with my blog, but things like Instagram’s algorithm changes don’t really help either because I want to engage with people’s content on their, but the stupid app has made it even harder now!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

  18. Kara

    October 25th, 2017 at 13:27

    Bloody LOVED this post Vix! My life has been so hectic since I moved in summer, and to be honest I’ve felt so down a lot of the time, so I haven’t really been blogging apart from the odd post here and there. I remember what an uplifting place the Blogosphere was when I started out, and I used to share the content of my faves until the cows came home, as well as comment on the daily. My aim is to try to get back into it in November, and I’ll be keeping this post in mind.

    Kara
    http://www.spreadthesparkle.co.uk
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  19. Jessica

    October 25th, 2017 at 16:29

    YAS VIX! You are slaying at the moment. I totally agree with people not wanting to share others content incase they do better. Like, there is enough internet space to go around people. Just because someone is doing amazing, doesn’t mean you can’t too!

    xoxo
    J
    The Crown Wings

  20. Jess Athorn

    October 26th, 2017 at 09:14

    This couldn’t have been said better by anyone else, everyone seems so wrapped up in their own ‘success’ these days which just makes it more difficult to build relationships with other bloggers

  21. Emily-May

    October 26th, 2017 at 13:10

    I feeeeel you. I’ve recently found myself shying away from everything because it’s was getting a little competitive & everyone was trying to out do each other and I am not here for it.
    I personally needed a little break. I cleared a few people from Twitter and insta for a fresher feed & now see lots of babes being super supportive which I love. I’m super lucky and met a really great friend through blogging and when either of us isn’t feeling it we have a coffee and shopping day and build each other back up. Also, if we come across something that would be a perf blog post for the other we whatsapp that shit straight away!
    I’m not here to compete, or for freebies or to think I deserved that opportunity more than them. I’ll read comment and give a little cyber high 5.
    Emily-may x

  22. Kayleigh Furfie

    October 29th, 2017 at 22:01

    I can definitely hold my hands up and say, my god, I am one of these pricks sometimes! I get so terrified that I’m not putting out enough content that I forget about all the incredible content that’s right in front of my eyes that I should be shouting about! Definitely need to start getting more into the bloggers world again, because it can be great!

    Great post my doll, fabulous as always!

  23. Ellis Woolley

    October 30th, 2017 at 17:48

    I’ve been wondering for quite some time what it is about the bloggosphere right now, especially on Twitter. Everything just feels a little meh and I can’t put my finger on it but you’ve just nailed it completely, along with making me chuckle (I LOVE the way you write!). It feels so competitive right now, especially when it comes to people retweeting their own work and not giving a flying fuck about supporting their fellow bloggers x x
    Ellis // http://www.elliswoolley.co.uk

  24. Jennifer Davies

    November 1st, 2017 at 17:50

    Bloody love this post! I started blogging about 18 months ago or so, mostly just to put into words what I couldn’t express verbally. Amazingly I found many people related to what I was trying to say. However, my general experience of blogging hasn’t been particularly positive – I find that I will often share/comment on other people’s posts, but very rarely get even an acknowledgement of it, let alone a ‘thank you’ or any of my posts commented on/shared! It does really feel like everyone is in it for themselves which I guess is absolutely fine, I think I’ll just keep on blogging to help me express how I’m feeling and sharing what I think are great blogs!

  25. Alex

    November 3rd, 2017 at 05:12

    As a complete newbie to the blogging world, this is exactly everything I do NOT want to become! Love the no BS approach

  26. Kate

    January 30th, 2018 at 20:21

    Crikey! I’ve only been blogging for 2 months and came across your post. My blog is more of a diary of a ‘no new clothes for 12 months’ challenge, so I am not interested in sponsorship, just a bit of engagement and moral support. After sharing it on Facebook, I noticed my page views went up to 184, but only one person commented and no-one shared it or subscribed! I’ve also noticed that some comments I’ve made on other blogs of tweets have not had a response, even though they are on feeds of people who have done similar challenges! I won’t lose any sleep over it, but reading your blog post explains a few things! Thank you!

  27. Little Katie

    February 5th, 2018 at 23:51

    Another great post! I feel like people get wrapped too much in all their wonderfulness but I think your blog race was a fantastic idea! I followed it and through your and Laila’s tweets I came across new bloggers and lush instagram accounts. You keep doing what you’re doing. I have followed your blog and openly fan-girled you because you’re down to earth and you know-just like the rest of us. But with a fricking banging blog and a promising 2018.

    x

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